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Maybe Long Distance Isn’t Such A Bad Thing After All…



Though absence may make the heart grow fonder,when you are absent, the heart is fickle rather than fond, for many long-distance couples when they move to the same location. Recent research has revealed that the likelihood of breaking up sky rockets after the couple moves to the same location. That is, you may be more likely to maintain your relationship when you are apart than after you move to the same town.




Maybe Long Distance Isn’t such a Bad thing After All…




It's not just avoiding fights. If your relationship is too good to be true, it probably is. Individuals in long-distance relationships tend to have much more idealized and romanticized views of their partners than people living in the same location. When you have only weekends, you put your best foot forward. People stop looking their best or being on their best behavior all the time. In other words, they become like normal couples. On the knowledge front, almost everyone says they learn something new about their partner, something they didn't know when they were apart, or at least had forgotten about. And though some people are in for some pleasant surprises, people report learning four times as much negative information as positive. Cute quirks become annoying habits. Time is now available to discuss and discover issues, such as beliefs and values that simply never came up before.


So maybe your relationship failed because you are a romantic who desires the pain of separation, maybe your partner wasn't so great after all (or not as compatible), or maybe you just didn't realize all of the changes that would happen. In the first case, there may not be much you can do. You may be in love with a romanticized idea of being in love. For others, here are some things that might help.


First, when you are long-distance, be normal. Talk often; don't avoid arguments. Don't put on hold all those issues that couples are supposed to talk about, like future plans, beliefs, and values. Let the person see the real you. Spend time with each other's friends and families when you are together. (Don't just go out--or stay in--with just the two of you). Learn how you each get along with the other's friends and family. Sometimes this will lead to breaking up. But, if this is the case, you probably would break up after you move closer to one another. So as painful or unromantic as this might seem, letting go sooner rather than later is not always a bad thing.


Many couples break up in the first three months after coming together. Though every day together seems like Valentine's Day when you are in a long-distance relationship, if you are prepared you can make the transition to the same location. If you can survive the first few months together, well then, you might discover that it doesn't take absence to make the heart grow fonder after all.


The Coronavirus Pandemic forced us all into LDRs. When lockdown hit, family reunions, social gatherings, birthdays, and weddings were cancelled; and even 2 blocks felt like long-distance because we were not able to be with that person.


Also noteworthy was the fact their fatigue peaked after approximately 20 minutes of driving. This suggests highway hypnosis may happen very quickly on monotonous stretches of road, not only after long periods of driving.


As a young man who was terrified of any sort of commitment, I found that I could only allow myself to fall for a girl if she was at least 500 miles away.1 The first time, we both genuinely tried to make it work, but things fell apart spectacularly, mostly because we were both too young and immature to handle the distance.


A lot of long-distance couples create rules that they should have X number of calls or that they need to talk every night at a certain time. You can easily find articles online recommending this sort of behavior.


This uninspired, filler-filled kind of communication often creates more problems than it solves. If your partner seems more interested in his tax returns than catching up with your day, chances are you should just hang up and try again tomorrow. There is such a thing as overexposure.


A long-distance relationship cannot survive without hope. And for there to be hope, there must be some possibility that the two people involved will one day be together and achieve a Happily Ever AfterTM.


Release any feelings of guilt or regret you have surrounding the relationship. Forgive yourself for anything that happened in the past because you can no longer change it. You can only move forward and learn from it.


When it comes time for something to end, rather than clinging to what no longer is, realize impermanence is the nature of life and try to embrace it. Appreciate the good moments you had, cherish those memories, and let them go in exchange for new experiences.


i came across this site. im leaving my partner after 8 years. i always thought that i couldnt live without him but the thing is i cant live with a liar or a cheater. Clinging on to God is the only thing that took the pain away.. i would go in my room and scream to the top of my lungs for hours and cry untill i couldnt feel the pain anymore after that didnt work but so many times. i turned to God and begged him to take away the pain. I told him that i wouldnt put myself in another situation like this again. We broke up a week after my birthday its been almost 2months. im definitely not fully healed. i still have my days where i wanna just cry but i know there was nothing i did wrong. one thing ive learned is you cant change people. they have to want to change for themselves. Another thing is i had so much trust and faith inside this guy i had more faith in him then i had in myself. i built who i was around him. Biggest mistake we all make. we cant give people this much power and allow our identity to be lost in some jackasses hands. For everyone thats reading this i pray that you make it out of whatever you are going thru right now. God is undefeated. Lean on to him.


But, as you already know, it's not just a long run that can make you work up a sweat. It's the little things, too, like being outside on a hot day or taking the stairs instead of the elevator. But, somewhat confusingly, you may also find yourself sweating at night, even though you're totally at rest, as well as when you're just scared, nervous or in pain.


Hello my name is Ilona and i just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. We had the most toxic relationship anyone could every had. I met him when i was 16 and he was 20 and he was an alcoholic and addicted to drugs but i stayed because deep down i loved him and we connected. Being around him caused me to gain weight and not do well in school. Im 18 now and finished my first semester of college and i got back on my feet and lost all of the weight but we were still together through this and it made me feel like I caused all of those bad things to happen in the first place. Those were the physical changes that happened. Mentally it was a nightmare, we would break up and get back together its like fire and ice all of the time. I thought thats what passion was but im not sure of that either. He was in the military so he would be gone a lot of the time but i would always check his location and be worried because there was such a lack of trust. I cheated on him to try to convice myself that i somehow escaped the relaionship but I still stayed. Recently things got to a breaking point where he was drinking everyday when he was coming home for that last 3 months. I felt so stupid for staying but i convinced myself that it was ok because i had cheated on him. We broke up yesterday and i told his family about his issues. Im 18 and i cant fix an alcoholic and i am not a cheater i hate that i did that. I feel like everything bad in my life has been caused my him. But i also feel so attatched to him because he was my first love. I blocked him on everything and we havent talked since last night. I wanted to share my story, like many other did, to show how you are better than your abuser. The decisions you make are soley yours but if you are in a rotten relationship with a rotten person then you become that too. Im learning to let go and if anyone has any advice for me on how to cope please reach out ?


Distance in relationships can be difficult. Without physical contact and time spent together, it can be challenging to create intimacy and maintain a strong bond. Despite these challenges, many people may stay committed to a long-distance relationship, hoping to live with or closer to their partner at some point in the future.


If you have had the distance in a relationship for a while, you may be wondering when to let go of a long-distance relationship. You may want to hang onto the relationship, believing that you and your partner will be united at some point.


In fact, a recent study by Long Distance Relationship Statistics found that 60 percent of long-distance relationships are successful. While the four-month mark was a particularly challenging point for couples in the study, those who made it to the eight-month mark in a long-distance relationship were more likely to be successful.


For example, one of the problems with long-distance relationships is that one member of the partnership may desire to live together in the near future, whereas the other partner has no plans to be together. It can be exhausting to put effort into a relationship that does not seem to be leading to a shared future.


While such relationships can be successful if both members of the partnership put in the effort to make them work, there are times when they are not successful, and you need to know when to let go of a long-distance relationship.


There is no communication between the two of you. You might notice that you have nothing to talk about with your long-distance partner, or you may find that calling them or video chatting with them has become a chore.


Distance in a relationship can make it difficult to stay together, so both partners must try to make things work. If you feel that your partner is no longer trying or making you a priority, this is a sign of when to let go of a long-distance relationship. 2ff7e9595c


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